jennyl
Registered: Aug 21, 2008
Posts: 12
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| Sept 19, 2008 at 04:31 PM |
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Hi
I have found much resonance with Naomi's approach and that of tribal peoples - famously highlighted by The Continuum concept. However i am struggling with the ROCRO - spend as much time as possible with / for your children letting them lead and a seeming divergence with continuum of 'letting them be'. My son is 20 months so perhaps hasnt reached fully the time of concentrated play, I do (and love to)spend many hours following his lead and being there with him in his activities, but he also seems to benefit from time alone (but usually in same space) when I am cooking for instance (I have changed my approach as at times i could see i hinder his spontenaity by being focused just on him). He also seems to love helping with chores, - like picking apples, hoovering, sweeping, waching up occassionally, cooking/chopping veg - in his own way (he does more than DH!!). Also going to town for shopping and washing, followed by something non-chore based like exploring rock pools.
I feel 'bad' sometimes that i have so much to do (dont have support), yet i think Dan does want me to do/ my own stuff - its the way they learn isnt it. He loves doing adulty things. Does this make sense?
I feel almost a conflict between ROCRO and Continuum in the respect of following a childs lead and living in our adult world.
Is it as simple as getting a balance between the two approaches and seeing when Ds needs me to be active or follow his lead/needs?
thanks
jenny
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GoonieMom
Registered: May 13, 2008
Posts: 51
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| Sept 19, 2008 at 09:50 PM |
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I think you ARE following his lead by realizing that he doesn't need you to play with him all the time. I, too, see that my LO sometimes needs time where I'm not in her face. I have encouraged her to do things on her own, and she enjoys it. Also, if he enjoys helping out with chores then by all means have him do them! They are growing up in this world, and need to know the physical reality of it. Sweeping is not a bad thing to him - to him it is this interesting things that big people do. So he wants to do it, too! You sound very in tune with what your child needs, so keep doing what you are doing mom! |
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