ninabambina
Registered: April 08, 2008
Posts: 12
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Hi,
Another issue I've been struggling with for years now is diet and the food choices we as parents bring into our child's life. My husband does eat well, and in addition has a steady diet of potato chips, white bread, pasteurized milk (if not homogenized, it's unaesthetically pleasing in his black tea, consumed three times a day), and some sort of chocolate, ice cream or sweet at least twice a day. The only things I've been able to get him to do is to not eat dessert in front of our girls.
Now, Naomi says that the mother/primary caretaker needs to take a role of leadership and take a stand and simply not allow food that she feels affects her children adversely. I definitely see the deleterious effects of white flour and sugar and excess dairy. My husband does not wish to change his diet. What, then, is there to do? I feel I have made far too many compromises. I would rather not have the poisons (too harsh a word? I don't think so, but my husband has used the phrase "food Nazi" once or twice) in the house at all, and then there would not be the constant struggle of refusing my children's pleas for sugar, etc.
What I'm wondering is, besides any good advice re: diet and kids, how Naomi expects the "offending" adult to change. Is my husband never to eat at home? How would that affect the family dynamic? Am I supposed to really take a stand and simply not allow the food I feel is bad for my children to enter the house? Is that realistic? Are my husband's food preferences not to be considered?
I have been in a quandry about this for years now. Don't know if there's a solution, but would love any input.
Many thanks,
Nina
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rawmumof3
Registered: Oct 07, 2009
Posts: 4
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I, too, would like to know if anyone out there has any suggestions because I am going through a similar thing. My husband never used to eat at home because of his job, so food was basically for us, so I bought what we ate, but now in a couple of weeks he will be eating with us, and I don't know what to do either. I really don't agree with his way of eating. He used to bring pop, gum, etc into our house, so I put a sign on our door for "others" = no candy or gum in our house (for people of all ages). I read it to the children, so whenever he would bring something in, they would tell him that it couldn't be in our house. He doesn't really do that anymore, but I am concerned more now about "real" food too. And, yes, I do call that food poison to my children because it is - at least to me.
Thanks,
Marlo
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Joanne
Registered: Sept 06, 2008
Posts: 19
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I have been changing the foods in our house for the last 10 years. Once my dd turned 2 she was more aware of us eating chips and what not. As well we would watch movies around her too. This habit was not great for her. So first we started doing things when she went to bed. That didn't sit well either, but I have to admit this went on much longer than I had liked.
I do not recall when we stopped with white breads and pastas, but it all came gradually for me. As I learned that wheat(even whole) was a food that was overused I decided to make the change. So I would bring in rice pasta's and what not. We have almost always had fruit and veg at meals. I recently have changed to eating far less meat and mainly no dairy. I have been telling my husband for a while now to eat other foods while he is out, and he wasn't always getting it. In this last year or two I have gotten stronger and said that it is really changes the kids when they eat refined foods and dairy. It has taken me a long time to get this figured out for myself as well as for me to be clear to my husband. I feel that he understands this much more now. Not sure why exactly, probably partly because of my strength. I stressed what foods were not allowed in the house and kept stressing it.
So yes I agree with Naomi. I also want to say that this may not happen overnight. At least it didn't for me. It may be easy, it may not, but for the health of your family you can choose what you want and don't want to expose your kids to.
take this with a grain of salt, as I am not telling you what to say or do with your husband. Hang in there, there is always room for change. You can only change yourself, model for others.
So I am not sure if there is an answer in my comment above, but maybe it will support you in your transformations.
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