sabrina
Registered: June 03, 2009
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| June 03, 2009 at 06:36 PM |
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my baby hates the car...it is gotten so bad i avoid going anywhere. i have tried everything and it only seems to get worse. we have cried and nursed and stopped the car, tried to get him to sleep which sometimes works. sometimes its a dream ride, but most of the time he ends u screaming and it takes me hours to go anywhere. i have let him scream all the way home only to have a despondent baby who wont even look at me and who is miserable and whiney the rest of the day. he is very high needs and i give him as much of myself as i can, and i would give anything to kee him hay in the car or even to just have him whiney instead of the excorhist. we never let him do much crying, his needs are met fairly quickly, he's our first. i always do what i can and when he does cry let him know how i am with him but i dont know what else to do. he is definately quick to cry but is so smart and remembers things that have haened only once, so every bad car ride means the next is worse...he is like utting a cat into the car seat. we have tried toys, playing in the car seat while the car is off, letting him sit in it and just have fun, feeding him in it, changing car seats to a bigger more comfortable. lease any help. i need some sanity and a social life that doesnt end or begin with a miserable baby. he is just heartbroken and i feel that crying it out is not going to work.
thank you so much
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rachelernst
Registered: April 03, 2008
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| June 18, 2009 at 12:53 AM |
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My nephew was very difficult in the car (so I hear). His parents, my brother, pinned it on the vibrational frequency of the car. Try a different vehicle and see what happens.
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ommom
Registered: Sept 18, 2009
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| Sept 19, 2009 at 09:34 AM |
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so sorry you're struggling w/this. i hear ya! DD hated the carseat as well though we are lucky in that she is 8.5 mo. now & we just got a convertible carseat & things are much better.
but, from past & current experience:
- can you walk or take the bus/public transpo. in your area?
- can you arrange carpooling with other/s so you can sit in back w/him
- have you already tried the mirror that goes in back so you can see him? with a convertible carseat on the side and the mirror positioned more centered, he can see you when you lean into center & look back
- some trix that have worked for brief windows of time: opening & closing the back windows w/controls from up front
- talking on my cell phone or creating pretend dialogues on the phone about ridiculous things ;0) ; i noticed my conversational dialogue helped settle her sometimes
- singing and making sound FX with interesting modulations of my voice
the timing of driving is crucial for us. that just took experimenting around fullness, sleep, etc.
many babies just don't dig the carseat. if you think 'bout it, they are right on! how unnatural to be strapped in that position facing backwards away from your caretaker where you can't see or feel them!
when they start facing forward, i think things get way better for lots of kids...
hang in there!
ommom
ps it once took us 9 hrs & $45 to travel what usually takes 30 min's. i probably pulled off 10x. traffic was slow on the fwy. she was screaming. there was no point driving. i sat on the side of the fwy for 3 hrs. waiting for traffic to die down. i've gotten good @ peeing into a coffeecup in the back seat! i finally had my husband drive down to meet us. he drove. i sat in back. he took a cab back to get his car.
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aerbare
Registered: Oct 21, 2009
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I see that this question is pretty old....mostly wondering how it is now? We had the same problem...well, still do sometimes. I was hope our pediatrcian would say we could turn him forward but nope.
Anyway, what's helped us a bit is turning radio static on LOUDLY. It's annoying for us but he seems to stop crying much more quickly and a lot of times will just fall asleep.
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